|SCRIPTURES||REFERENCE TO THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNITY|
|1 Th 2:17||This verse leaves no room for doubting Paul’s love for the believers in Thessalonica. The phrase “torn away” is translated as “orphaned,” recalling the apostle’s parent-child metaphor (see v. 7, 11). Even though there was an undesired parting, Paul assures them they’ve been in his thoughts and shares how he continues to have a heart-felt, earnest longing to see them again. Paul goes through great lengths to maintain community even at a distance. He understood the importance of connection and knew a key way to maintain that was to honestly express his deep affections for them. There are many ways we can build community as small group leaders. Prayerfully consider e-mailing a message to your whole group this week that shows your love for them collectively.|
|1 Th 2:18||Building on the previous verse, Paul explains he not only wanted to connect with them, but he tried repeatedly – only to be prevented by the enemy. Not only does this show the apostle’s devotion to them, it reveals how community among God’s people is something the enemy despises and will work tirelessly to prevent and deconstruct (3:5b). It’s a reminder for us to be aware and wise to Satan’s tactics (2 Cor 2:11b; Eph 6:10-12). Over the course of this month, remember to pray for your group and also to pray against the enemy’s efforts to throw apart the biblical community being built in your group and our church.|
|1 Th 2:19-20||Paul expresses how the community of believers in Thessalonica embody that which brings him hope, pure elation and honor from a well-earned victory (cf. Php 4:1). He frames his feelings in light of Jesus’ coming, pointing them toward a future full of hope and comfort. His passion for this community is magnified by the fact his present feelings will continue into eternity. Community is present AND future. The future we’ll share together in heaven can actually intensify the community we enjoy now. Sharing a kingdom perspective on the biblical community being built can inspire your group. Paul repeatedly casts this ‘eschatological vision’ to the recipients of his letters so they’ll be encouraged to persevere and prevail as missionaries in their respective communities (Php 3:13-14, 20-21, 4:5; also Heb 12:1-3). When you express your appreciation for community in your group, remember to share how every joy that comes from your community will be perfected, amplified, and experienced together in heaven together for eternity.|
|1 Th 3:1-3||Paul longed for community and the support of his friends. He recalls not wanting to be left alone Athens – a city so steeped in idolatry it rendered him distressed (Acts 17:16). But because of his great love for the believers in Thessalonica, Paul gave up his greatest source of personal encouragement for them: God’s (and his!) fellow worker, Timothy (v. 2). It was more important to him he shared the community that strengthened and encouraged him in his faith with these believers who were being persecuted (1:6b, 2:14b, 3:4). The apostle repeatedly demonstrates a sacrificial love in the face of adversity for the churches under his care (v. 5). Likewise, there will be times when God calls us, as group leaders, to give up things that benefit us personally for the sake of the larger community. Paul knew Timothy’s presence would strengthen and encourage the believers in the thick of their trials. As a result, everyone was blessed – including Paul – because of his sacrifice (vv. 6-8). The apostle provides us with a good model here for when we face things that challenge our ‘small group preferences’. Preferences that have developed as a result of the relational dynamic we’ve become accustomed to. Preferences that make us fearful of anything that could change the dynamic which becomes so dear. As a result, we resist anything that could change by addition (an open group that could attract newcomers) or subtraction (releasing a co-leader or other group participants to ‘plant’ a new group). These verses also reveal how relationship with other believers directly impacts our faith. It goes far beyond ‘feeling better’. Community feeds our faith making it stronger and emboldened with divine possibilities.|
|1 Th 3:6-8||Timothy serves as an encouraging link between communities. (This is what you are with others who are a part of our small group leadership community.) The love and faith expressed from the believers in Thessalonica strengthened and encouraged Paul through his distress and persecution. Notice how the very thing he intended for these believers came back upon him (v. 2). The blessing that comes from selfless acts of love always outweighs the sacrifice. Paul always had the bigger picture in mind for God and His kingdom. A mutual longing for one another’s fellowship existed because they knew the love the apostle had for them. Your love for people in your group builds biblical community. People know when they’re loved. When you express your love and faith for your small group the result is life-giving community (v. 8). Ask the Lord to expand your love for your small group and help you to express your faith so the experience of community will be strengthened, encouraged, and enlivened for everyone involved.|
|1 Th 3:9||Community strengthens and encourages our faith. Paul has also shared how the love and faith of others in Christ breathes life into us emotionally and spiritually. Now he describes another effect of community: Joy. Community lifts our spirits (emotions) and it lifts our spirit before God. Here we see the apostle expressing his thanks to God and his thanks to these believers. The very memory of his relationship with them has brought him much more than momentary joy…his relationship serves as a wellspring of joy even at a distance. Paul had such great influence on so many new communities of believers because of his ability to express his affection for God and people together in a seamless strand of communication; words that touched the hearts and minds of his hearers. Words that expressed theological truth coupled with the truth of his emotions. As you share with your people in your small group, aim for this three-dimensional (3-D) communication: Words that express height (relationship with God), width (relationship with people), and depth (the intersection of the two in community). 3-D communication makes your words come alive in people’s hearts and fortifies the bond of community.|
|1 Th 3:10||Satan is not only the enemy of our souls, he is the enemy of any gathering of God’s called-out ones (2:18, 3:5b, 11). An important role of a small group leader is to contend for community. Pray with sincerity and seriousness for your group on both the individual level and communal level. Here is yet another verse that shows the apostle’s devoted love for the believers in Thessalonica and his persistent partnership in building up that community. One of his primary motivations for wanting to be with them in person is to help to solidify their faith for their sake and for the sake of those who had not yet come to Christ.|
|1 Th 3:11||Paul proceeds to put his prayer on parchment after sharing about his dedication to them in unceasing prayer. One of the ways the enemy seeks to throw apart the community of believers is to throw up barriers to our coming together. There is strength in numbers and Satan knows this (Mt 18:19-20). It is one of countless reasons why he hates the Church. There are two take-aways from this verse: 1) Be spontaneous in praying for the community you’re a part of – do this privately and publicly 2) Remember to pray that God would clear the way of anything that would inhibit the growth of biblical community.|
|1 Th 3:12-13||Let’s enumerate what Paul prays for in these verses…he asks the Lord to: 1) Make their love increase and overflow for one another 2) Make their love increase and overflow for everyone else around them 3) Strengthen their hearts so they would be blameless and holy until the end of time as we know it (cf. 2:10). His prayer shows the desire of his heart is for a deluge of devotion to suffuse their fellowship and spill over into the city of Thessalonica. The result is a missional community. When the members of a Christian community have an exuberance of love for one another but it’s not touching everyone else around them, the experience and impact of that community is severely lacking. How can your community foster symmetry of love for one another and love for everyone else? There is relational breakdown when the inward flow of love that nurtures community is not counterbalanced with the outward flow of love that makes a community missional. When there is symmetry, the community becomes one that is truly transformed and transformational – a living sacrifice in corporate form, that gives God joy in a similar way the believers brought so much joy to Paul (Rom 12:1; cf. 3:9). True community is true worship (Jn 4:24). During your next gathering, ask the Lord to make your love increase and overflow for one another and everyone else. Invite your group participants to join with you in seeking to understand what this symmetry of love looks like for your group. Discuss how this leads to true community, which is itself a living act of worship that strengthens our hearts and pleases the heart of God (Eph 1:4, 5:27).|
|Scriptures||Reference to the Importance of Community|
|1 Th 2:1||The believers in Thessalonica knew Paul because of how he lived among them. The following chapter gives us an instruction manual of sorts on how we can be an effective witness among our neighbors. At the outset of his letters and extended blocks of teaching, the apostle uses language that reminds those who will hear his message that they’re family. The Lord uses the role of the small group leader to bring guidance and instruction at times. When you feel led in this way, recall how Paul speaks to his audience. When we use ‘family language’, it reminds our listeners that “we’re all in this together” and that “we’re all on equal ground.” It expresses humility, which opens hearts to hear and receive instruction. Paul knew this and following his example here can strengthen one’s leadership and sense of community within the group.|
|1 Th 2:3||Paul exemplifies transparency in this verse. He discloses the motivations of his heart and explains the intent of his actions. Even though the recipients of Paul’s letter ‘knew’ him (cf. vv. 1-2), the apostle doesn’t hesitate to reaffirm his credibility and sincere love for them. Err toward over-communicating your heart for your group participants. Tell them why you do what you do on a regular basis. This bonds your group and builds trust in your leadership. People need to know your true self and that you’re being real to them. As mentioned in the introduction to this update, this kind of truth-telling is an “indispensable element to effective evangelism.”|
|1 Th 2:4||Like the apostle, we too are people entrusted with the gospel. This means we are to take care in communicating the Good News. When our concern is focused on those receiving the message we’re less concerned about ourselves. Paul was totally for those receiving the Good News. He knew it. They knew it. As a result, communication lines were laid through which the Gospel message could flow freely. People have to know our hearts to trust us. How can your small group know your heart? How can the neighborhood in which your group meets know your heart? Reflect on how you and your group can be transparent with one another. Then discuss together how your group could express this transparency to people who are not yet a part of your group’s gatherings.|
|1 Th 2:5-6a||Paul was without masks and guile. He did what he did for God, not personal profit. The way he lived among them proved this to be true. When our lives and actions are directed away from ourselves with the benefit of others in mind, people stand up and take notice. It requires purity of heart and the sincere expression of one’s faith. This is how the biblical community of the early Christians found favor with God and all people (Acts 2:47a). It is no different today. How can your group practice other-focused ministry within and beyond its gatherings?|
|1 Th 2:6b-7||It is important as believers to do everything in our ability to not be a burden to others. There will inevitably be times in life we will need the help of others to carry our burdens (Galatians 6:2). Small groups provide an ideal means of support in this regard. Believers ought to aim their lifestyle toward the nurture of others, particularly those who have yet to cross the line of faith or who are young in the faith. This was the missional trajectory Paul set his life on. Piggy-backing on Paul’s analogy from this verse, a mother’s care for her little children reflects the selfless love described in 1 Corinthians 13. Paul was trying to capture the ultimate picture of nurturing by referencing the way a mother nurtures her little children. This kind of care was meant to be prescriptive for how believers are to minister to one another and their observing community. Our care for others (as a leader & a group) should express this love. When it does, your group’s actions are truly apostolic, i.e. your group becomes the medium through which people in the community can ‘hear’ the Good News.|
|1 Th 2:8||We demonstrate God’s love when we share our lives with those we’re reaching. Building upon the love a mother shows for her little children (v. 7), Paul expresses his pure delight at sharing the Gospel message and his life with them. His words shared the message and his life showed the message. This is the essence of biblical community. As we pour ourselves out in this way for others the effect is mutually endearing. How could members of your group share their lives with people in their sphere of influence? Think simple & practical: Keep your garage door up, use your front porch / lawn and talk with neighbors passing by, bring a gift for special occasions, etc. See www.serve-others.com for more ideas.|
|1 Th 2:9||Again, Paul identifies with his friends. As he is asking them to recall, he is reminding them of their family ties and his sacrificial service. Genuine gift-giving has no expectation of return. It has no strings attached. The Gospel message needs to be delivered the same way. It reeks when it’s done any other way. The nature of service in Jesus’ Name is that it opens doors to share the Good News. Notice how “preaching the Gospel” was not a ‘one-man show’ for Paul. He did it for a community and he did it through community.|
|1 Th 2:10||When we live according to God’s Word we show we are God’s people. Biblical living establishes our credibility. This takes place over time. The vast majority of the world will look for more than one instance of the kind of living Paul’s mentions here. That’s why community is so important. It allows us to live out the Gospel for the world to see over time. Community encourages perseverance for believers and consistency for unbelievers.|
|1 Th 2:11-12||Paul once again employs parent-child terminology primarily to express his affection and love for the believers in Thessalonica. The kind of leadership Paul displayed to them provides a model for us as small group leaders: Encourage, comfort, and call group participants to put God first in all they do. This of course is not done with a ‘better-than-thou’ attitude – a father wouldn’t interact with his child with that kind of heart – rather as a champion and helper.|
|1 Th 2:13||The Word of God is living and works within those who believe (Hebrews 4:12). Whether or not your group’s defining activity is bible study, it is wisdom to find ways to incorporate it into your gatherings, e.g. do an impromptu devotion by taking a couple minutes to share how a particular verse was meaningful to you the past week or affirmed something you learned through a recent experience. Remember that God’s Word is always at work during your group’s gatherings, especially during times that feel flat.|
|1 Th 2:14||The other communities (churches) of Christians – even those far away – were examples the believers in Thessalonica could follow. The fact they were able to “imitate” suggests there was significant interaction with other believers around the region. Thus, the core of Paul’s missionary strategy involved establishing communities of Christians in overlapping concentric circles that interrelated with one another at many different levels (like intersecting ripples created from individual rain drops on a pond). Small groups need encouragement from other small groups ‘in the trenches’; some of the strongest support comes by example. This is one of many reasons why interconnectedness at the leadership level is so important. The health of your small group is tied directly to that of other groups within our church. You can help to build up the larger community of which you’re a part by sharing the stories of what God is doing in your group with other leaders around you.|
Reference to the Importance of Community
|1 Th 1:1||The only time we find Paul alone is when he was subjected to forced isolation. Otherwise, you see the apostle with his missionary companions. The Gospels and letters that make up the New Testament were composed by two or more, delivered by two or more, and received by two or more. They were by a group for a group. Consider writing a short message of thanks and encouragement to another group this next month.|
|1 Th 1:2-3||Prayer is the primary expression of our dependence upon God and outlet for our interdependency with other believers. The act of praying for one another is both a practical and “super-communal” action that empowers believers to live for Christ and make a difference in the world for Him. Here and elsewhere in his letters, Paul shares his love and appreciation for his brothers and sisters in Christ through prayer. Thus prayer is a critical aspect of how we love one another and build biblical community. In fact, biblical community cannot grow without prayer. Consider asking each person in your group to take ‘ownership in prayer’ for an aspect of the Acts 2 dynamic to grow and be strengthened.|
|1 Th 1:4-5||Right away, Paul declares what he and his friends at a distance hold in common: Union in Christ. The church in Thessalonica was established because Paul and his fellow workers planted themselves among the people there. Notice how his self-references in this verse take on the plural form. The Holy Spirit used the witness of their words and lifestyle to impact the recipients of the Gospel with power and conviction. In other words, Paul and his traveling companions lived out the Gospel as community within a community trailblazing a path of salvation to the hearts of the lost. They lived in Thessalonica for the sake of their neighbors and apparently, their witness was obvious and memorable. Ponder July’s outreach idea and how your group can have a similar presence in your community.|
|1 Th 1:6||Paul and his friends took Jesus’ commission (Mt 28:19-20) to heart and really modeled the Gospel to their host community. They did so in the face of serious resistance and rejection (Acts 17:1-9). He not only told them the Good News, He showed them the Good News. There are consequences for everyone who receives Christ. For most people, they want to know they’re not going to be alone ‘on the other side’. Paul and his friends brought this reassurance for the Thessalonians who were apparently experiencing “severe suffering” as a result of their new-found faith. They provided the encouragement and the example for being a follower of Jesus Christ. Their ‘other-focused dwelling’ within Thessalonica opened a channel through which God’s Kingdom could advance. A “community on mission” is God’s plan for each local church and small group. How could your small group be such an example that onlookers would welcome the Gospel with joy, even in the face of resistance? Here is a group activity you might want to do this month: Think of what needs & desires your small group could meet of people within your sphere of influence and then brainstorm how you could communicate (dare say, “advertise”) this in your community.|
|1 Th 1:7-10||Thessalonica was a very large city and strategic crossroads for trade and communication. Paul knew this and leveraged its influence for the spread of the Gospel. There was enough interaction happening among cities at that time that this fledgling church proved to be of great influence early in its existence even to new churches over 100 miles away. Just as Paul was an example for this community so this community of Christians was an effective witness to other church plants. Their faith, like Paul’s, manifested in loving efforts that influenced unbelievers and inspired believers. (cf. v. 3). The way their lived out their faith spoke for itself. Small groups provide the way to bring the living presence of the Good News to people who might not want to look for answers to their spiritual questions at a church service, at least initially. Ask the Lord to give your small group insight and inspiration on how it can be an encouraging example to other Christian communities. This chapter also explains why it is so important to share the stories of what God is doing in your small group with the leadership of your church: Encouragement (believers) and influence (unbelievers). God uses story-telling to develop and expand the community life of His Church. Here’s an easy way to partner with Him in doing this: Record stories of life-change you witness in your small group and then ‘pass it on’ to church leadership to be shared with others.|
Rest takes discipline. That might sound strange to some, but it requires intentionality to maintain a consistent rhythm of spiritual practices to rest well. We’re accustomed to thinking of Bible reading and prayer as spiritual practices, but “rest” does not usually make the list. It should. Sabbath is a critical piece to this, but if we’re not resting in other ways, we can inadvertently misuse this sacred time and miss the divine intent of it.
The importance of rest for small group leaders cannot be emphasized enough, especially in a world that is increasingly fast-paced and filled with unlimited distractions. For over 20-years, I’ve gotten to serve as a pastor. Twice I’ve “hit the wall.” In other words, I got so depleted that I wasn’t able to continue in the same way I had been until I took time to care in new ways for my own soul.
Unfortunately, I’ve seen this happen to many church staff and volunteer leaders because the demands of ministry always outpace people’s ability to meet them, whether you’re shepherding a small group of people or a local church. Far too many of us learn the hard way. As my friend Lance Witt puts it: “You cannot live life at warp speed without warping your soul. When you run fast and hard and long, eventually you will drain your soul…Running on empty will eventually lead to cynicism, disillusionment, and burnout. You are not the exception.” (High Impact Teams) Your life and leadership will suffer in the blur of a hurried life.
Small group leaders are entrusted with the sacred responsibility of being influencers in the spiritual lives of the people circled up with them. In order to be spiritually healthy and effective, your soul needs rest. These five practices will help you to wisely prioritize your relationships and make deposits into your personal life so that your service as a small group leader can be sustainable and strong:
True rest necessitates the nurture of our most important relationships beginning with Christ and flowing outward to our family, friends and others the Lord has put in our lives. Our most central relationships influence all the others, so a shallow relationship with God or a struggling marriage will affect how one leads others at work or in ministry. Sadly, by neglecting their innermost relationships, leaders end up forsaking their souls.
Jesus Christ is the One who enables us to live inside-out with Him as our source rather than allowing the pressures of life to turn us inside-out. Your soul will only find rest in Jesus who said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)
You will find rest for your soul when you come under Jesus’ direction and learn from Him. True rest makes space for the Holy Spirit to do His refining and transformative work in your soul. As a result, you will be healthier, more joyful, and effective in your spiritual leadership. You owe it to God, yourself and loved ones, and the people whose spiritual growth you are influencing through your small group leadership.
Balance has always been elusive for me in ministry. Earlier on, I grew skeptical of it because I pictured it as being something that literally meant I was giving equal time and attention to multiple things but somehow not cheating anything. Life rarely allows this luxury. So when I heard balance applied to small groups, my instinctive reaction was “Nope – that’s just setting leaders up to fail.”
If we’re honest, we’re probably not doing all of the things we’ve learned that we should be doing in our groups. People connect and grow together regularly through some form of fellowship, Bible study and prayer in most groups. Far fewer develop a plan for building in other spiritual practices, different expressions of worship, and outreach to make a group experience well-rounded, or dare I say, “Balanced!”
Over time, however, “balance” for me became less about maintaining perfect equilibrium, and more about planning ahead on how you can incorporate activities that are commonly omitted from group life, but vital to the health of it. You need to have a plan to have balance.
The group leader is the person responsible for driving the process of developing a plan with the group about how they will be intentional about including spiritual practices that do not normally occur in their gatherings. I’ll share a few pointers on how group leaders can lay the groundwork for balance by planning ahead for it followed by practical ways members can pursue balanced group life together.
Laying the Groundwork for Balance
Balancing Group Life Together
This last point is a master key to balanced discipleship in your group. Maybe the Lord has a unique purpose for every group that is unique to it based on the supernatural composition of spiritual gifts represented in its group members. Maybe every group has its own divine palette of colors that can be mixed together to produce a one-of-a-kind work of art to the glory of God.
If this is so, it stands to reason that a group will experience “balance” as each member of it works in concert with one another to make his or her own special contribution to God’s mission in the world. Group leaders can catch a vision for unlocking balanced disciple-making when they tap into the spiritual growth goals and gifts the Lord has planted in their group members.